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I am Benjaman Kyle, an amnesiac who woke up with no memories in 2004. Nobody knows who I am. AMA

Nov 25th 2012 by Benjaman1 • 40 Questions • 2691 Points

I woke up beaten with no memories outside of a burger king in 2004. Any identification was stolen as well. The Amnesia was presumed to have been caused by an injury that knocked me unconscious. The United States government still doesn't have a clue as to who I was. My internet connection is spotty, so I'll be on as long as I can. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Benjaman_Kyle Here is proof: http://imgur.com/OCqRk, and here is more (a copy of the only ID card I have with the address covered). http://imgur.com/YjiBv

There's a short documentary that explains my predicament on www.findingbenjaman.com, or https://vimeo.com/34589969 After the documentary, I got a special state ID, and a job in a kitchen, where i still am to this day.

Please sign the petition to get me a new social security number. http://wh.gov/I5Rn

I have to go, but I will try to get back when I have a good connection and the time.

Q:

No finger prints,dental records,no old High school friends, or family. That is crazy, Do you have full memory now of your day to day activities? Like can you remember what you just did or do you forget a lot?

A:

I do forget a lot.


Q:

what would you do if they recovered your previous identity? Would you work at reassembling your pre-accident life or continue life as Benjamin Kyle?

A:

A little bit of both, I'd have to merge both lives.


Q:

Signed your petition, good luck to you. Are you a generally happy person, or does the mystery surrounding your life really weight you down?

A:

I guess I would say I'm generally happy but I get depressed sometimes.


Q:

Do you ever have nagging feelings about specific places/things that are just on the tip of your memory, but you can't quite place it?

A:

Yes all the time.


Q:

Did the person or people who did this to you ever get caught?

A:

No


Q:

1) Where in Florida? Was this also where you woke up? 2) Do you remember any other languages? 3) Did you check with the VA? You may have served in the military.

What if you are not supposed to find your true identity? Maybe you are part of a special witness protection program.

A:

1) I'm in jacksonville. I woke up in richmond hill, Georgia. 2) no 3) that's been checked

the witness protection program has been checked


Q:

Sorry, I should have read the Wikipedia article first. One thing it doesn't mention is drug or alcohol use. Do you have any characteristic of past addictions? Also, the article mentions that you were not in the best of health prior to the accident. How bad was your health? Could you have been homeless?

A:

One of the initial reports said that my lab results were surprisingly normal, indicating that I was in good health considering that I was just a homeless bum. No characteristics of past addictions.


Q:

Have you ever walked around an area and felt that it was vaguely familiar?

A:

No, I would like to. That's I'd like to go to indianapolis or denver


Q:
  1. Did you forget what kinds of food you liked or how things tasted?

  2. Do you remember any famous people or people you knew before the accident?

  3. Do you think the accident could have changed your personality at all?

A:

Someone asked me the presidents, and I got all of the 20th century ones right. That was one of the tests from the doctors


Q:

Were there other things you forgot besides your identity that you had to relearn?

A:

I'm not sure I had to re learn anything. It seems like whenever i need to do something, if i've done it before, I remember. When I got in a car I knew how to drive a car.


Q:

Any books or shows you recall after seeing them again?

A:

leave it to beaver, ozzy and harriet, bonanza, star trek the original


Q:

Are you a time traveller?

A:

Everyone is a time traveler. They're born, they live, and they die.


Q:

What do you know? And how has no one stepped forward to identify you? Has this bothered you at all?

A:

I don't know how nobody has stepped forward and identified me. I suspect the media has overrated themselves in how they think they reach all the people in the united states.


Q:

What abilties have you discovered In the last couple of years?Like play the piano or repairing cars.

A:

Working in restaurants, and repairing restaurant equipment.


Q:

Have any neurologists or similar scientists studied you? EDIT: If so, what did they figure?

A:

Dr King, the neurologist hired with the dr phil show, came to the conclusion that it was a disassociative fugue


Q:

Has anyone yet looked through yearbooks in Indianapolis for you? Just a thought

A:

Yes but I understand they could not find a complete set from all the high schools.


Q:

What are your life goals - career, family, etc?

A:

Oh long term, I'm planning on dying. Hell, I'm 64. I plan on working until im dying. There will be no retirement or credit.


Q:

How do you know how old you are?

A:

I was born ten years before Michael Jackson. I remember that distinctly.


Q:

So Benjaman what are you doing now?

Can you finally get some books from the library? If so what are some good books that have helped you pass the time?

A:

I have a library card now, and a state ID card. I like science fiction.


Q:

Check out Ray Bradbury's Martian Chronicles if you haven't already. He's also got another collection book that includes The Illustrated Man.

A:

I've read both of those, don't remember much about them, but I think I've read just about everything Ray Bradbury ever wrote.


Q:

Do you ever see something in particular that feels very familiar or significant? Have you been back to Indianapolis? Maybe just walked around or something?

A:

I'd like to go back and just walk around, other than just looking around on the internet. Dr Phil talked about doing it, but they never did


Q:

I remember the best salad bar in Denver was Azar's resturants and them having the worst service.

Wow, that had to be some shitty service. I have this image of you telling the manager ages ago "There is no amount of trauma, that will ever let me forget these empty glasses of water". They should really buck up and send you some rolls. For life.

A:

They are a defunct chain. Out of business-I think that proves I was right about their service.


Q:

Best of luck to you Ben. I've never heard your story, so maybe someone who really knows who you are hasn't either. Lets hope we can reach them this time!

A:

Thank you.


Q:
  1. has anything come back to you in the past few years?
  2. How has your life been up to this point? have you gotten a job? what are you doing now?
  3. Are you still actively trying to rediscover your identity or are you accepting your new life as it is?
  4. What was it like to wake up and remember nothing from your previous life up to that point?
A:

For memories: http://www.findingbenjaman.com/updates/

  1. I have a job working in a kitchen, but with no SSN its cash only and off the books
  2. both 4.confusing

Q:

Has anyone doing the investigation tried to focus on Indianapolis and Denver? Because it seems that most of your memories are focused around those areas.

A:

Yes, but nothing positive has come up.


Q:

Do you still have hope that you will find your original identity? Are there any not yet exhausted search strategies? If so, what?

A:

I think if anything's found out now, it'll be a stroke of luck.


Q:

If you have memories of those two specific cities, why on earth haven't you gone to them to recover your memories by now? I understand money could be difficult when you can't make any and such... but it really seems like the most logical course of action. To go where your memories indicate.

A:

up until very recently, i wouldn't have been able to go, because I would need to be driven. To fly you need an ID


Q:

I don't know how to ask this tactfully, but I'll try.

The fact that you were homeless and hopeless, but seem not to have resorted to drug use blows my mind. I know that a lot of people who hit rock bottom try to drown their misery and escape reality as much as possible.

  • Was there a point when you were homeless that you would spend any money you could find on alcohol or drugs?
  • If not, what would you do to pass the time and take your mind off of your situation?

Thank you so much for sharing your story!

A:

Taking hardcore drugs and becoming an addict scares the hell out of me. Because the drugs would be controlling your life. And I would read.


Q:

Has anyone considered -Amish? He could have left or been kicked out. Ya know the show. Breaking Amish. I could be totally wrong though, who knows (I just know that I watch too much TV). It would explain why no one would be able to find him via the media, why he hates the phone, affinity for reading (but not the science fiction kind I suppose). The Amish also do not vaccinate nor do they allow their photos to be taken (for ID). It would also explain why no dental or doctors records could be used to identify him (as seen in Bone's "The Plain in the Prodigy").

Edit: I lied. I just did some quick internet searches and that the Amish do, in fact, have SSNs but I believe it might be a more recent development. However, the sources I am finding are sort of mixed up about it. Perhaps a resourceful redditor can help me out? There really isn't any good information out there. I also know that children born in cults sometimes do not have an SSN but that's just something I picked up from the Castle episode "Swan Song".

Edit 2: Mr. Kyle, while you discounted being able to speak or read other languages, have you tried to read or understand German? This could nip my theory pretty quick.

---scratch my theory. its bogus. he sounds a lot like my ex's father. they were from Indiana.

A:

Thats interesting-there is a huge amish population in Indiana


Q:

Did anyone try to take advantage of you being in this state? Something along the lines of "hey you owed me $50 bucks, I'm your best friend"?

A:

No.


Q:

I still think you look a lot like my uncle Rodney. I haven't seen him since 95, and can't seem to find him. (Lost ties with him when my dad died).

A:

Where are you located?


Q:

I believe peoples personalities are somewhat shaped by their past experiences. Developing aversions to certain activities or types of people and building a demeanor off of previous encounters and interactions, as well as a moral subset.

To give an example, when I was a kid I had a swarm of Termites fly through my family's apartment, which now causes me to despise flying bugs.

So my question is: If you were to self examine your current personality traits, what elements in specific could be traced back to possible events in your past?

A:

of course, all I am now has got to be based on where I was in the past. I hate talking on telephones. I think that's because when I grew up they were a luxury, and kids weren't allowed to use them. Maybe I was punished for using one.


Q:

Its intensely interesting that you still hold those kinds of elements after losing so much. Its like an essence of your past is still with you. From that perspective I would think trying to remember your actual past from details like that is to try and see through thick smoke.

A:

You must be a carpenter- you hit that nail squarely on the head.


Q:

It feels a bit unsympathetic asking these personal questions but I am quite intrigued by the story. So I hope it's OK. What do you believe happened in your past? A few people seem to come to the conclusion that you were homeless. What do you say to this assertion? Do you believe you have family somewhere out there?

A:

You know, at 64, they may be dead.


Q:

What would you do if you suddenly remembered your previous life and you found out that you gave yourself amnesia on purpose?

And would you rather fight 100 duck sized horses or one horse sized duck?

A:

I don't play the what if games. They can drive you crazy.

One horse sized duck.


Q:

You're wiki says your first name really is Benjaman. When did you remember it?

A:

I don't know, I just did when I woke up. I think that's the first thing they asked me


Q:

me too that's weird

A:

And there are other people with that spelling.


Q:

How upset does it make you that you can't connect with your past life at all? Are you upset that no one has tried to look for you?

Thanks for the AMA, your story has always amazed me!

A:

I don't know. Puzzled I guess. Mostly I stay so busy that I don't think about it. Because I still have to get on with living.


Q:

How can non-American residents help? I can't sign the petition because I don't live in the US (don't have a ZIP).

A:

talk to your american friends. what if you sent a letter to the us embassy in the country they live in?


Q:

We should turn this guy into a meme,that way a lot of people could see his face

A:

What is a Meme?